Wiseup.org.nz Review:Wise Up :: The Truth about drugs in New ZealandFade | Wiseup Challenge - Honest information about drugs in New Zealand. A to Z list of drugs explains appearance and use, effects, chances of getting hooked, health risks and law.
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This compelling novel artfully cuts back and forth between the 1920's and the 1950's, the connecting thread being an enigmatic Parisian named Eva whose dying wish is to provide a young woman across the Channel with a breathtaking world of choices that she herself was once denied. The young woman is Grace, a new bride who is not entirely comfortable with the whirl of superficial social obligations her husband expects her to fulfill in order to complement his own heady prestige. The arrival of a mysterious letter - and the hint of an even more mysterious inheritance from a total stranger - coincides with Grace's painful discovery that her adoring hubby is perhaps not the most honest man on the planet. Off she goes to the City of Lights for answers to a multiplicity of questions, not the least of which is whether everything she has been led to believe about her own family has been nothing more than a cleverly crafted lie. Smart pacing, well developed characters, plausible dialogue, and the detailed tapestry of its historical backdrop make this a satisfying read from cover to cover.
We took in a grandchild that has been abandoned by one parent, abused and starved by another, moved from home to home, etc. Drugs and alcohol are her background. She is a wonderful child but she is manipulative and plays the victim to get attention. She does not do her schoolwork, etc. Teachers spoil her because of her background and because she acts coy and cute, so they provide her with the one on one hand holding she wants and so she plays that she can't do anything. Then I catch her doing her math perfectly, her writing beautifully, etc just for fun. Everyone else around her wants to baby her because they think poor, poor her so she has no need to lift a finger outside the house and she was becoming rebellious in the house.
I have never been a parent and I was losing my temper with her. I did not know how to move her in the right direction. Total Transformation may be directed at problem kids, which she is not at this point, but it is helping me get her focused and keep her from following in her parents footsteps (mother into drugs, trouble with the law, violent outbursts, drop out). Her math scores are regularly 100% now, her spelling has gone from failing to 70% and improving in just a few weeks. Her handwriting is legible and improving. She loves the sense of accomplishment she now gets from her successes. Implementing these techniques helps me to be a calmer and more consistent parent and is helping her succeed.
My husband raised 5 kids less than successfully. 4 of 5 have drug, alcohol and legal problems. He says he wished he had this when he was raising his kids.